How to Be Happier By Mastering Your Habits with Gretchen Rubin

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Are you happy?

Happiness expert, Gretchen Rubin, author of bestselling book, The Happiness Project, believes it is our habits that determine the answer to this question.

Her passion in life is finding out what drives people. Why do we do what we do?

Human behavior is certainly a complex subject, but in today’s podcast Gretchen reveals to us some of the key principles in what drives our behavior and ultimately leads to a happy or unsatisfying life.

If you search “good habits” on the Internet, you will find many people telling you exactly what to do and when to do it. Gretchen found through her research and years of experience that there is not one simple recipe for happiness that works for everyone.

The most important step to achieving happiness and greatness in life is first and foremost understanding your personality, and then adopting habits that align well with both your goals and your character.

On today’s episode Gretchen shares with us the ‘four tendencies framework’. She discovered this insight and shared it in The Happiness Project to help people better understand themselves and why certain habits work for them and others work against them.

The four tendencies are:

  • Upholders – respond readily to outer and inner expectations
  • Questioners – question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense–essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations
  • Obligers – meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves
  • Rebels – resist all expectations, outer and inner alike

In this episode she goes in to depth about all four tendencies and the pros and cons of each, and how to be happier in our lives.

What you will learn

  • Two easy habits to transform your life (Sleep/Exercise)
  • Which habits to form and strategies to stick to them
  • The four tendencies framework and how it applies to you.
  • How expectations define who we are.

Topics discussed

  • Habit forming
  • Happiness
  • Psychology

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How to Conquer Fear, Create a Massive Vision, and Live To Your Full Potential

Michael Strasner

You may have a massive vision for your future, but something is holding you back. As you daydream about a life full of passionate work, amazing experiences, and wonderful people, a nagging voice in your head tells you to snap back to reality.

Michael Strasner, a personal and professional coach for the past three decades and author of Living on the Branches helps us understand this voice in our minds and shows us how to banish it– once and for all.  He shares with us how to ‘use our minds instead of being used by them,’ how to conquer fear, and much more.

Michael has coached over 100,000 people and one of the biggest discoveries he has made is that transformation is a way of thinking. It is our mindsets that hold us back or propel us forward into our dreams.

Beliefs like ‘I am not worthy of success’ haunt many of us on a daily basis. It becomes such a regular part of our routine, that we don’t even realize these thoughts are influencing our behaviors and feelings. This ultimately results in a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Limiting beliefs come from the events and experiences in our lives and how we interpret them. We may not be in charge of these external factors, but we are in charge of what we choose to learn from them and the message we decide to carry with us, from that point onwards.

At the heart of many insecurities is fear. Fear of success, failure, heartbreak, and the list goes on. Michael shares with us his personal experiences dealing with fear early on in his career, how he pushed through it, and how you can too.

Hope you enjoy this episode growers.

What you will learn

  • How to build a foundation for success
  • How to conquer fear by controlling your mind instead letting your mind control you
  • How to push through fear in moments of doubt and insecurity
  • Proven confidence building techniques that Michael teaches
  • What you should look for in a mentor and how to find one to accelerate your career


Themes discussed

  • Confidence
  • Success
  • Leadership
  • Fear
  • Vision/Dreams

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Tucker Max on How to Write a Best Seller Book That Gets Read By Millions

tucker max

I’ve learned a lot from the 20 amazing guests we’ve had on the show so far.

The most successful people seem to be the ones who don’t shy away from failure, aren’t afraid to do what they love, and strive for continuous growth, no matter how successful they become.

Tucker Max, author of New York Times’ #1 bestselling book: I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, is no stranger to failure, or success. After graduating law school he went on to become a lawyer and was fired from his first job. He then went on to work for the family business, and was fired again.

It doesn’t come as a surprise that what eventually brought Tucker great success and purpose in his life was doing what he loved to do and was great at— writing. More specifically, writing about the crazy adventures he had with his friends in his 20’s.

Tucker has sold millions of books to date, making the Best Sellers List every year from 2006 to 2012, and is one of the only three authors (Malcolm Gladwell and Michael Lewis) in the world to have had three books on the New York Times Best Selling List at the same time.

Years later, Tucker continues to evolve and grow. He recently began a new company: Book in A Box. It aims to solve the problem of the people with a message to share, who don’t have the time to create a book,  nor deal with the hassles of publishing. As Tucker says: “Great products provide real value to the people who are using it or buying it.”

In today’s podcast Tucker shares the secrets to great marketing, creating a product that will sell millions, and building a personal brand that is genuine.

Let’s bring on Tucker Max on!

What we talk about

  • Top marketing strategies that Tucker has learned from decades of experience consulting for world-class brands and influencers, and from his own experience of selling millions of books
  • The difference between traditional publishing and self-publishing (and the pro’s and con’s for each)
  • The three types of people who should go with traditional publishing as opposed to self-publishing
  • Why the word “personal brand” is bullshit, and how you should approach it instead
  • How to have people take you more seriously
  • Two fundmanetal factors that make a product great and talked about

Topics discussed

  • Online Marketing
  • Writing
  • Books
  • Personal Branding

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How to Overcome Your Fears, Silence Your Critics, and Steal the Show

michael port

Have you ever met someone who naturally owns the room and impacts those who surround them, no matter where they go?

Michael Port is one of those people, and in today’s show he reveals to us a secret about this seemingly natural ability of his to overcome his fears and steal the show.

His ability to change his circumstances, including the way people behave around him, is not by chance; rather it comes from a discovery that he made years ago.

Michael tells us how we can morph into different characters according to the unique situations that we may find ourselves in. Most importantly, he shows us how to do so authentically, by not changing our values in the process.

Over time we tend to create a box for ourselves by accepting only certain elements of our character. Michael explains to us how exploring the different parts of our personality is the key to changing the way people perceive us—we don’t have to leave it to chance.

In his own life, Michael has never limited himself to being just one thing. He started out as an actor and later transformed into an entrepreneur, author, business and marketing expert, and professional speaker. He has written six exceptional books and is the host of the most popular public speaking podcast: Steal The Show with Michael Port. He is a true example of someone who has created their own success in life and in today’s podcast, he shows us how we can do the same.

What you’ll learn

  • A different approach to expressing gratitude towards your audience (whether it be one person or a room of 1000.)
  • The two types of critics and how to silence them.
  • How to influence the dynamic between yourself and others.
  • How to change the way people perceive us through our physiology.
  • How to avoid being nervous before giving a speech.
  • A strategy you can use to influence people to agree with you.

Topics Discussed

  • Public Speaking
  • Self Esteem
  • Personality Development
  • Body language

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Click here to check out Michael’s new book: Steal the Show

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What were your favorite lessons from this episode?
What is the number one fear that is stopping you from crushing your fears?
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How to Become the Most Memorable Person in the Room

vanessa van edwards

Have you ever wanted to become more memorable?

Whether it’s a job interview, networking event, or even a first date, it’s a skill we must have in order to be successful in life.

Most of us have been taught that social skills is a soft skill or rather an art that some people are born with.

Our guest today, Vanessa Van Edwards, has broken down “people skills” into a science-based approach to teach us how to master your social skills including body language, social psychology, and more.

Her website Science of People is a human behavior research lab, where she studies people of all backgrounds on human behavior, psychology, and relationships to answer questions like:

  • What makes someone charismatic?
  • Why didn’t I get the date?
  • Do people like me?
  • How can I win the deal?


In just 30 minutes, Vanessa blew me away with the specifics of her research and data, such as measuring the distance between someone’s shoulder and ears in order to know if they’re a leader. Due to Vanessa’s astounding and unique approach in introducing the importance of PQ (People Quotient) instead of IQ, she has been featured on CNN, Forbes, Wall Street Journal, and has given keynote speeches at MIT and several Fortune 500 companies.

Now let’s bring the lovely Vanessa Van Edwards on to the show!

What You’ll Learn

  • What is the first thing someone looks at when you approach them
  • What is the right amount of eye contact you should have when having a one-on-one conversation with someone
  • How do you know if you’re an alpha male or alpha female
  • Tailoring your conversation to make anyone feel more attracted to you
  • The one skill you need to use to make your conversations more exciting
  • What you should ask when you first meet someone at a networking event (I put Vanessa on the spot!)
  • How you can deal with uncomfortable silence (non-verbally and verbally)
  • Why you shouldn’t try to impress anyone, and what you should do instead

Topics Discussed

  • Alpha personality
  • Eye contact
  • Networking
  • Body language
  • Similarity attraction effect
  • Silence vow

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Vanessa’s Question to You (& Win her $200 course!)

“What’s the most interesting, sassiest, and juiciest conversation starter you have?”

The winner with the best answer will receive Vanessa’s popular course: Body Language For Entrepreneurs (worth $200!).

Answer below and we’ll pick the winner.


How to Network with Warren Buffett, Michael Bloomberg, and Meet Anyone You Want

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What if you could meet anyone you want in the world?

How would that change your life? Who would you want to meet?

These are the questions our guest Gillian Zoe Segal asked herself before she started her journey to connect in-person with 30 of the most successful leaders in their respective industries.

Names include: Warren Buffett, Anderson Cooper, Michael Bloomberg, Sara Blakely, and Frank Gehry.

While the premise of the book is about mentorship, the background of her 5-year journey to meet the most powerful people in the world is what’s captivating.

How did she initially contact them?
How did she overcome the rejections?
How did she turn her 10-minute meeting with Warren Buffet into a 60-minute meeting?

These are the questions we answer in this interview, as Gillian unveils the backstage curtains of her networking operation, and shares some of her best kept strategies and tactics on how to network with the most powerful people in the world.

This interview is for you if you’re looking:

    • for a powerful mentor
    • for investors, advisors, or partners for your business
    • for incredible interview guests for your platform,
    • to build a network of people who are more successful than you

Enjoy the episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • The 2 single biggest traits that the greatest minds have to set them apart?
  • How to look at Death in order to maximize your quality of life
  • How to network and build relationships with the most successful icons in the world including Warren Buffett, Anderson Cooper, Frank Gehry, Sara Blakely, and more.
  • How to pass the gatekeepers to connect with the high profile person you want when networking
  • What the most common rejection you will hear and how to overcome it
  • The proper way to follow-up when someone does not reply to your request or message
  • How long you should wait before you follow up
  • How to format your email request to increase your chances of getting a response and a yes (everyone needs to hear this)
  • How to approach and connect with a mentor that you don’t have a previous relationship with
  • Step by step story of how Gillian got in touch with Warren Buffett
  • How Gillian extended her original 10-minute meeting with Warren Buffet to a 60 minute meeting
  • Fostering the relationship you’ve built after connecting with people

People Mentioned

Tweetable Quotes

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  • “Someone should tell us from the moment we’re born, that we’re dying.”
  • “When you’re passionate about something, you’ll do just about anything to make it happen.”
  • “Don’t take a no from someone who can’t give you a yes.”
  • “Nobody owes you anything.”
  • “When it comes to networking, take whatever you can get. Just get yourself in the door.”
  • “If you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough.”

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Now it’s your turn.

What is the one thing you learned from this episode about networking?

How You Can Build a Massive Audience From Scratch [Plus Giveaway]

If you’ve spent some time browsing around Youtube, you’ve probably heard of Simple Pickup.

The channel that started with 3 random guys in their early twenties, going up to random girls on the streets. They’re well-known for their incredibly original and out-of-the-box skits, such as being on wheelchairs, dressing up as harry potter, and wearing fat suits.

It may not have such a glamarous nor prestigious allure at first glance, especially given how the three of the original founders of Simple Pickup met on an online dating forum (more on that later). But you can’t ignore the success they’ve achieved in the last four years alone.

Boasting over 2.3M subscribers on Youtube, Simple Pickup has become one of the top Entertainment Channels on Youtube, with cover stories on major outlets including ABC News. Given their success, they have gone on to found Jumpcut Studios, which supports other fast-growing Youtube channels looking to achieve the success Simple Pickup has.

The story starts with Kong Pham, the CEO of Jumpcut Studios, who claims to have had no social skills nor a social life growing up as a teenager. Like any socially struggling teenager, Kong went online to dating forums, which is where he met his partners Jesse and Jason. The rest is history.

With the mission to help all young men overcome their fears of rejection, increase their confidence, and become their best self, Kong believes that anyone can learn to get what they want.

In this exciting (and hilarious) interview, Kong and I go deep on fear, confidence, relationships, psychedelic drugs, creativity, psychology, and entrepreneurship.

We also unreveal the backstage curtains and take a step inside what’s happening at Jumpcut Studios, sharing what Simple Pickup has done to build a multi-million fanbase, how they come up with their wacky, viral video ideas, and what you can do to build buzz, exposure, and virality for anything you want to promote.

p.s – we’ve partnered up with Simple Pickup to give away some prizes to lucky winners.

Here’s how you can enter:

1. Listen to the episode with Kong (during the end of the interview, Kong will ask a question to the audience)
2. Answer the question in the comments section below
3. We’ll pick 3 winners with the best answer, and send the prize your way!

Prizes you can choose from (Winners can choose one of these)

1. Free Ebook: How to improve your dating game online (Value: ~$20)
(i.e. Instagram, Couchsurfing, OKCupid, and more)

2. Access to Project Go (Value: ~$500/year)

3. Simple Mixology (Value: $97)


Favorite Guest Quotes of the Episode

  • “At some point, you just have to go for it.” Click here to tweet
  • “Surrounding yourself with people who make you better is the best investment you can make.” Click here to tweet
  • “If you live a life you truly enjoy living, you’re going to want to share that with other people.” Click here to tweet
  • “Don’t make any decisions based on escaping reality.” Click here to tweet
  • “Big ideas come from many small ideas throughout time coming together.” Click here to tweet
  • “The best advice I have for people wanting to build an audience is to be polarizing.” Click here to tweet
  • The people who love you are 10x more valuable than the people who hate you.” Click here to tweet
  • “Act the way you want other people to act.” Click here to tweet

Highlights You’ll Want to Listen to

  • How Kong started Simple Pickup and how he met his partners on online forums
  • Why picking up girls have so much to do with business, life, and relationships
  • How to keep a conversation going with anyone
  • Why it’s dangerous to consume information without taking action
  • Avoiding analysis paralysis to take more action
  • How to design a lifestyle full of experiences and stories
  • Using psychedelic drugs to enhance your creativity and experiences
  • The creative process Simple Pickup goes through to come up with new ideas
  • The power of starting your business on the side and how to do it
  • When to quit your passion project and when to persist
  • How to build your own audience from scratch
  • Balancing your diverse identity as an influencer
  • How to lead by example as a leader

Links Mentioned in the Episode

Topics Discussed

  • Analysis paralysis
  • Confidence
  • Conversation skills
  • Finding what you love
  • Creative process
  • Psychedelic drugs
  • Pick up artists
  • Entrepreneurship
  • Persistence
  • Polarization

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Marcello Arrambide: Growth Mindset, Travel Hacking, and Achieving Complete Freedom


Imagine losing $25,000 loan while you’re still in college.

Most of us would probably look for help from our parents, save every penny, and never take out a loan again.

Marcello did the opposite, by taking out more loans and risking everything he had to make his dream come true.

If we were to ask a simple question: “What do you really want?” The majority of people living on this planet won’t know how to begin answering this question.

But from an early age, Marcello had a clear vision for what he really wanted: to achieve freedom.

Financial freedom, location freedom, and time freedom.

wandering trader

Today, Marcello has travelled to over 80 countries in all 7 continents, and runs day trading academies around the world.

But the focus of this interview isn’t on day trading. It’s about mindset.

The single biggest factor that differentiated Marcello from the millions of other individuals was his ability to think differently.

“Success is 80% psychology, 20% mechanics.” -Tony Robbins

In this 60-minute insightful interview, Marcello digs deep on the power of mindset, breaks down a step-by-step formula to get anything you want to have in life, how to reframe your poverty mindset, and so much more.

We also talk about travel hacking, the meaning of freedom, and how to develop a growth mindset.

Normally our interviews are focused towards a specific audience, but because of the golden nuggets of this interview, this is for anyone who wants to develop a growth mindset, achieve greater freedom, and live their dream life.

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Favorite Guest Quotes of the Episode

  • “We haven’t failed in anything, until we have decided we have failed.”
  • “If you really want something in life, the first step comes from knowing exactly what you want”
  • “Most people enjoy the beginnings of their lives, only to struggle later in their lives. Do the opposite.”
  • “If you want to make a $1B, forget work-life balance.”
  • “Rich people don’t work. They supervise.”
  • “Do not let anybody tell you that anything is impossible.”
  • If you’re working, I’m working. If you’re eating, I’m working. If you’re out taking a vacation, I’m talking.
    If you’re having sex, well… I’m haivng sex too, but I’m working really really hard at it.” -Will Smith
  • “We haven’t failed in anything, until we have decided we have failed.”
  • “If you really want something in life, the first step comes from knowing exactly what you want”
  • “Most people enjoy the beginnings of their lives, only to struggle later in their lives. Do the opposite.”
  • “If you want to make a $1B, forget work-life balance.”
  • “Rich people don’t work. They supervise.”
  • “Do not let anybody tell you that anything is impossible.”
  • If you’re working, I’m working. If you’re eating, I’m working. If you’re out taking a vacation, I’m talking. If you’re having sex, well… I’m having sex too, but I’m working really really hard at it.” -Will Smith

Highlights of the Episode

  • How to make money while traveling the world
  • The 3 different types of freedom in life and steps to take to achieve each of them
  • How Marcello lost $25,000 while in college, and how he overcame the loss
  • The mentality everyone needs to adopt in order to overcome any obstacle
  • The single biggest factor holding anyone back from success and getting what they want
  • 3 fundamental steps to achieve anything you want in life
  • The power of writing things down for memory retention
  • Why the most successful people start with one thing before branching off
  • The importance of going all-in on every aspect of your life
  • Explanation of the direct correlation between money and time
  • The big difference between successful and the average

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People Mentioned

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